Not every man out there sees the need for a wallet and not every man owns a wallet; the importance of a wallet cannot be overstated.
The wallet could said to be as old as civilisation; after the introduction of paper money, man needed way to hold it; by this, the first simple sack wallets were created.
Since the introduction of wallets till date, wallet has never lost its value and doesn’t look to lose its value anytime soon, which means there is something about wallets.
These five reasons are why every classy man owns a wallet
1. ORGANISED
With a wallet, you feel confident and organised; wallets make you feel sure of yourself as you have this understanding of where everything you carry with you are. With pockets, you might get confused of where certain things are if you have so many things to carry along. A classy man ought to be organised.
2. YOUR THINGS ARE INTACT
The various compartments in a wallet helps keep your things intact – your cash, identity cards, credit cards and every other thing that you might want to carry. The organisation and coordination a wallet brings is classy.
3. POCKETS ARE NO MATCH FOR THE CLASS WALLET BRINGS 
Bringing out money or things like your credit card from your pocket is no replacement for the class a wallet gives; with wallet your notes are straight and neatly arranged and there is everything classy about that.
4. CAN BE USED TO MAKE A FASHION STATEMENT
Wallets these days are used to make a statement fashion wise; gone are the days when wallets were only about keeping valuables; the colour of a wallet and style is now important as wallets these days can be used to match with the colour of your belt, shoes or socks. Major designers now offer seasonal wallet collections of black and brown leather which includes highly fashionable branded wallets.
5. IT EASES THE LOAD IN YOUR POCKET 
Having a phone in your pocket is already enough load, putting other things might just make it feel unnecessarily bulky, but a wallet eases that load as it makes you feel more comfortable, and as we all know, a classy man ought to be comfortable and confident.

These five reasons make a wallet special and a must have for every man. Have you ever seen a classy man without a wallet? I doubt so.

 

 As a hairstylist and colorist, I get asked a lot of questions. The majority are garden-variety about styling techniques, hair trends, and product recommendations. These inquiries are not the subject of this post. Instead, I’m going to share some of the other questions I’m frequently asked – the ones I can tell people are hesitant to ask. These are the topics that come up when I’m at a party or event after people learn I’m a hairstylist. Some are about hair and scalp issues and others are more about stylists themselves and the business of being a beauty professional.

Maybe there are a few things you are curious about but don’t feel comfortable asking? Below, I address some of the less openly discussed questions I hear. Of course, these are only my opinions. I can’t speak for all stylists but I’m fairly confident that these are solid, albeit generalized, answers.

1. Will my stylist get mad if I “cheat” on him/her?

Doubtful. There are many relationships in life that demand faithfulness; in my humble opinion, the one you have with your stylist isn’t one of them. It’s a big world of options out there. Maybe you got curious, maybe you got desperate and your stylist was booked, maybe someone gave you a gift certificate, or maybe you were on vacation. Whatever the reason, you strayed, you came back — and that should make your stylist happy, not angry.

2. I have psoriasis/eczema/dandruff. Will my stylist get grossed out?

No, of course not. Any experienced hairstylist or colorist has seen these issues time and time again. We are professionals who are trained to recognize these and other scalp problems. Unless you have a contagious condition like lice or ringworm or open sores (due to bloodborne pathogens) you are fine to visit the salon.

3. Can I ask my hairstylist to trim my facial hair?

Yes! Most stylists and barbers are happy to trim eyebrows, mustaches, or beards. If it’s a small request, like evening out sideburns or buzzing off a few errant ear hairs, feel free to ask at your appointment. For more detailed requests, mention it while booking your appointment so that the stylist or receptionist can build in extra time if necessary. FYI, you are on your own when it comes to nose hair and inner ear hair.

4. What can I do about thinning hair?

Thinning hair can be a touchy subject for both men and women but I’d encourage everyone experiencing hair loss to talk to both their stylist and their doctor. Your doctor can help you rule out any medical conditions or vitamin deficiencies that can contribute to excessive shedding and discuss treatment options with you. Minoxidil (Rogaine), which is now available over the counter, is FDA approved to treat thinning hair for both men and women. Men can also talk to their primary care physician or dermatologist about adding finasteride (Propecia), an oral medication that inhibits the conversion of testosterone into hair follicle-shrinking androgen dihydrotestosterone (DHT).
If you aren’t ready for the pharmaceutical route, laser treatments, vitamin and mineral formulas, and other topical treatments may be helpful and your hairstylist can suggest haircuts, hair color services, products, and styling techniques to make hair appear fuller.

5. Why does my stylist always take off more length than I wanted?

For clients who are growing their hair, it can be really frustrating to lose length. This used to drive me batty myself, but at some point during beauty school, I got it.
If your ends are damaged, it starts to split and break. They unfortunately split and break at different rates. For many, hair grows unevenly as well. (I had a client whose hair always grew longer on the left side.) So, if it’s been a while since your last cut, chances are that your ends are pretty uneven. Stylists will always try to correct this even if you desire a thin and choppy perimeter. Why? Because hair that is breaking will not get longer. Sure, it’s still growing from the follicle but it’s snapping off at the ends. And it looks awful.

6. Why do I have to tip when services are already so expensive?

Oh, the elephant in the room! No worries, it’s a valid question. Most stylists only receive a percentage of what you pay for a service. At my last salon, my commission was 30-40 percent. Hours spent in the salon during downtime, no shows, cancellations, and meetings are unpaid. It’s extremely rare to have any paid vacation time or sick days and evenings, weekends, and holidays are the hardest days to miss, financially. (Can’t anyone just get married on a Monday?) Additionally, hairstylists are typically responsible for all their own tools (shears, razors, clippers, trimmers, brushes, combs, clips, curling irons, flat irons, etc) as well as license fees including the education needed to renew said license. Some salons even charge their stylists a product fee per client to cover the cost of hair color and styling products.
Yes, it can cost a lot to have your hair professionally done and you should do what you feel is right. I simply hope this explains why tipping salon professionals is a societal norm and why your tip is so well appreciated by your stylist and/or colorist.

7. What about tipping the owner or an assistant that gives me a shampoo or blowout?

In the past, it was not customary to tip a salon owner but times have changed. The majority of salon owners will accept tips and they are appreciated.
You do not have to tip an assistant, but I can tell you from having been there that even very small tips ($1-2) are greatly appreciated. It’s a nice token of appreciation for a job well done. In my humble opinion, you don’t have to tip an assistant on top of a 15-20 percent tip for the stylist. It’s fine to divvy up this percentage.

8. Why does my stylist always try to sell me products at the salon?

Most stylists do get a commission on products sold, but believe it or not, that’s not typically the primary motivation. Recommending products is a natural extension of the job and an important part of the service. People come to hair professionals with problems, issues, and complaints about their hair and we are in the business of resolving them. Often a product (or products) is part of the “treatment.” Can you imagine going to a dermatologist or aesthetician with a skin issue and leaving without a product recommendation to address it?
No one wants you to buy a product that you don’t want. Believe me, it’s not worth losing a client’s trust. What we do want is for you to have the tools to have the healthiest possible hair and to be able to style it in a way that makes you feel beautiful. We also know that the products on our shelves have come direct from the manufacturer. Because of this, they are guaranteed to be fresh and are typically less expensive than at a third party distributor like a drug store.

9. One hairstylist told me X and another told me Y. What gives?

One generalization I can make about hair professionals is that we are an opinionated lot. The truth is hairstyling and hair-coloring are a combination of art and science and there are a lot of ways to get from point A to point B. Many stylists disagree on a number of subjects from haircutting techniques to how often you should wash your hair. The best advice I can give is to choose a stylist you trust and stick with their advice.

10. Is it hard to deal with people?

Well, sure. Sometimes.
I’m a pretty social person and I particularly enjoy one-on-one time with others. I have very genuine affection for my clients and many have become friends. People have an attachment to their hair and it certainly has an effect on their self-esteem. This is equally true of men and women. While it can be challenging, this intimacy is also the greatest reward. I’m privy to insecurities and have the opportunity to make people feel great about themselves. When a client leaves happy and smiling, it leaves me happy and smiling.
On the flip side, when someone is unhappy, it can really be crushing. This was much more difficult when I was starting out. Over time, you learn that some clients need time to warm up to a new look and others are simply having a really bad day. Sometimes you just aren’t a good fit style-wise. No one stylist is the right stylist for every person and that’s ok.
If you are unhappy with a salon service, it’s important to let the stylist know — without berating or belittling them. (Anyone who works in a salon has seen full-grown adults have the most massive tantrums!) Give them a chance to remedy the situation … you may be surprised

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A hydrogen-powered electric car under development in Wales is bringing more than just a C02-free powertrain to the table. Riversimple founder and chief engineer Hugo Spowers and his team are striving to upend the business model of making and selling – not to mention owning – cars.

“Disruptive technology can only work if it comes with a new business model,” says Spowers, who, in addition to being an entrepreneur, is a lifelong motorsport enthusiast, having fielded a private team in the 1980s. “When someone comes up with a radical new idea, the conversation always turns to why it can’t be done. And generally speaking, many of those reasons are true. But if you’re prepared to throw out the whole context and start again from scratch, all the reasons why something can’t be done just fall away.”

(Riversimple)

Spowers is no stranger to challenging the status quo, having worked on the hydrogen-powered LIFECar, a demonstration hydrogen-powered vehicle developed by a consortium that included Morgan Motor, the defence contractor QinetiQ, Cranfield University and Oxford University.
Like that project, Spowers’ little Welsh startup is perhaps best represented by its prototype, an as-yet-unnamed, two-seat wonder of Smart Fortwo stature whose toylike form conceals radical innards. “We’ve designed a car around hydrogen fuel cells rather than trying to put fuel cells into cars designed around the internal-combustion engine for the last 100 years,” Spowers says.
Compressed hydrogen travels from a pressurised tank mounted at the rear axle to hydrogen fuel cells tucked in the car’s nose. The cells convert the fuel into electricity, which in turn powers four direct-drive motors, one housed in each wheel. The direct-drive equipment obviates Riversimple from having to fit a gearbox; drivers just push buttons on the dash for forward, neutral or reverse.
“There are no moving parts, except for the wheels,” Spowers says. “There’s no metal-to-metal contact, no lubrication required and no mechanical wear.”

The carbon-fibre body shell of Riversimple's earlier prototype. (Riversimple, via 40fires)

Additional electricity is created via regenerative braking – whereby energy expended in slowing or stopping is recaptured rather than being lost as heat – and stored in a bank of supercapacitors that Spowers says will provide 80% of the car’s motive power down the road. “That means the fuel cells only need to supply 20% of the power during acceleration,” Spowers notes. Conventional friction brakes intercede for higher-speed emergency stops and braking below 8kph (5mph).
The prototype, which weighs about 520kg (1,147lbs) and measures 3.7 meters (roughly 12ft) long, scoots from zero to 50mph – its top crusing speed – in a respectable 8 seconds, Spowers claims, and has a driving range of about 300 miles before requiring refuelling.
While the final design is still being finalised, the demonstrator model reveals a sleek, light carbon-fibre body created by Chris Reitz, the company’s design chief. Reitz has put his stamp on many notable cars, including the Fiat 500, and has worked for Volkswagen, Audi, Nissan and Alfa Romeo.
But Riversimple also differentiates itself in another key respect. Just as the Beatles observed that money can’t buy love, it can’t buy a Riversimple car, either.
Rather, consumers will be charged a monthly fee that ostensibly serves as a lease payment, but also covers other car-related expenses such as insurance, fuel and routine maintenance. “Refuelling bills will come right to us for payment,” Spowers says.

The first prototype was presented at Somerset House in London. (Riversimple)

This mobility-as-service approach is not new; the (now bankrupt) battery-swapping startup Better Place tried it, and Hyundai recently introduced a similar programme in the southwest US for its Tucson electric SUV, powered by hydrogen fuel cells. (A $499 monthly lease payment over three years covers all fuel and maintenance costs.) Spowers says that the monthly payment will also help subsidise the development of fuelling infrastructure.
While an exact fee remains undetermined, Spowers estimates it will total about £450 (roughly $720) – comparable to the monthly operating costs of a new, moderately priced car. Fees will vary according to how far consumers drive each month.
“We’re rethinking the provision of mobility from a clean sheet of paper, without the legacy barriers imposed by the existing industry,” Spowers says. ”We’ve designed a solution that’s not just a car, but a business model that suits the 21st Century.”
That consumers will eventually return their cars to Riversimple for “resale” motivates the company to design products that last, as opposed to the conventional planned-obsolescence mindset of the car industry at large.
“Designing a car for this business model requires us to sell performance, not just cars,” Spowers says. “This changes our design drivers from obsolescence and high running costs to longevity and lower running costs – completely opposite from what drives the current auto industry.”
The principle may be difficult for consumers to grasp initially, Spowers concedes, but Riversimple ultimately expects motorists to gravitate towards a clean, viable alternative to ownership or conventional leasing schemes. Beta testing of 20 vehicles is slated for late 2015, with production expected to start in mid-2017.
As for name recognition, all in good time.

Hugo Spowers and the Riversimple car. (Riversimple)

See how T.B. Joshua is carrying about 3 bags of rice on his Head to deliver to unprivileged people in some part of Nigeria. He is an embodiment of humility Some people claim he is a fake Man of God, but I think he is better than most of our so called Man of God who ride around in their big cars and private air planes. What do you think

 Damn! The Kenya Film Classification Board doesn’t play! After banning the film Stories of Our Lives for ‘promoting homosexuality’ they have gone further and arrested the Executive producer of the film.
His name is George Gachara and was arrested for supposedly violating Chapter 222 of the 2010 Film and Stage Plays Act.

The cap reads that “Every application for a filming license shall be made to the licensing officer in writing and shall be accompanied by a full description of the scenes in, and the full text of the spoken parts (if any) of, the entire film which is to be made, notwithstanding that part of the film is made or to be made outside Kenya.

Provided that the licensing officer may in his discretion in any particular case accept an application notwithstanding that it is not accompanied by such description and text if he has been given such other information as he requires for the determination of the application.”

Those who failed to act in accordance with this would be “liable to a fine not exceeding one hundred thousand shillings or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding five years or to both such fine and imprisonment.”

George was arrested by the Kenya Police 2 days ago who came with people from the Department of Film Services and others from the Ministry of Sports, Culture and Arts. He was huddled into a vehicle and taken to the Kilimani Police Station. He was however released after being bailed out.

Photo: The Nest

The bail money was KES 10,000 as indicated above  and he is expected to be arraigned at the Kibera Law Courts today.

A 32-year-old man, Mr. Terkura Iorpuu, was on Thursday arraigned before a chief magistrate’s court in Makurdi, the Benue state capital, for raping and infecting two young girls with HIV.

It was learnt that the two victims, aged eight and six, were the daughters of his lover, Mrs. Mson Tor.

We also learnt that both the rapist and the mother of the two minors had been HIV positive for over a year and had been using anti-retroviral drugs.

It was learnt that the bubble burst after the kids started walking in an unusual manner and were subsequently taken to Hemko Hospital, Makurdi for medical examination.

After the test, it was discovered that the girls had been defiled through “forceful penetration”.

Medical examination also showed that the two sisters were HIV positive.

The victims, when interviewed, revealed that it was their mother’s boyfriend that raped them.

The magistrate, Lilian Tsumba, adjourned till December 4 for further mentioning and ordered that the accused be remanded in prison.

VIA: gistplaza

 

Nollywood screen diva Genevieve Nnaji has a grown up daughter who is as stunning as she is. Her name is Chimebuka but her friends call her Theo.

Genevieve

 Nnaji got pregnant when she was a teenager but because of her parents’ church policy, she could not get rid of the pregnancy. Today she is happy and proud that her daughter is now a big girl in her 20s

See Chimebuka’s pic below.

Actavis is buying Botox-maker Allergan for $66bn (£42bn) to create one of the top ten biggest pharmaceutical companies in the world.

Allergan had spent months fending off a hostile bid by activist investor William Ackman and Valeant Pharmaceuticals.

The cash and shares deal agreed with Actavis is worth about $12bn more than Valeant's offer.
Actavis said the deal would mean $1.8bn in annual cost savings.

The deal between Allergan, which is also the lead supplier of breast implants, and Actavis is the biggest pharmaceutical deal this year.

Allergan had seen the attempted takeover by Valeant as "hostile" and had expressed concerns that Valeant would reduce research and development in order to make the deal work financially

What acid reflux foods should I avoid?

This is a question most gastro-esophageal reflux disease sufferers struggle upon. Promoting healthy nutrition that is based on avoiding certain foods while increasing the intake of others has the potential to confer significant long-term health benefits among acid reflux sufferers.

Lifestyle and dietary alterations are considered to be an integral part of any long-term GERD treatment.

The foods we consume play an important role when it comes to keeping our body’s delicate natural inner balance.

Since certain foods and dietary habits have been found to directly and indirectly promote the aggravation of acid reflux, avoiding those foods and adopting specific dietary habits for optimal digestion could have a tremendously positive effect on your existing medical condition.

The following are examples of these types of foods:

1. Coffee and other caffeine containing beverages lead to increased acidity, so avoid large amounts of coffee. Try to limit your daily coffee consumption to two cups or less. If possible, split your coffee cup into two half cups, and reduce coffee drinking before bedtime.

2. Alcohol can irritate the stomach and relax the LES muscle, leading to increased acidity and reflux.

3. High-fat foods are among the biggest culprits behind GERD symptoms. They take longer to digest and aren’t easily eliminated out of the body, thus increasing the chances that acid will splash up into your esophagus.

The only exceptions are omega-3 fatty acids from fish and fish oil, which are in fact powerful anti-inflammatory agents.

4. Chocolate contains a great deal of caffeine and fat. This may increase acidity and worsen digestion and hence should be avoided. If you are a devoted chocolate enthusiast, go for dark, organic varieties, and eat no more then two to three tiny squares two to three times per week.

5. Milk and milk-based products that contain a big proportion of calcium should also be avoided before bedtime.

6. Peppermint, spearmint and other mints can worsen acid reflux symptoms. Avoid foods that contain strong mints, including mint-based herbal teas.

7. Acidic foods (such as oranges and tomatoes) and cruciferous vegetables (onions, cabbage, cauliflower, broccoli, spinach, brussels sprouts) promote the opening of the esophageal sphincter, thus increasing acid reflux.

So what acid reflux food should you avoid?

With these dietary changes and a healthy motivation to alter your lifestyle, you can be on your way to overcoming gastro-esophageal reflux disease and improving the quality of your life and well-being.

We’d all like to know what guidelines the most successful and happy people in the world are using to make their lives so fulfilling. What makes them able to reach their goals unlike everybody else? Here are some of the guiding principles that healthy, happy successful people use to reach their goals and create the lives that they want.
Ego-check
They can check their egos, but they also know how to make themselves seen, heard, and respected.

Follow Through

They don’t drop things as soon as the going gets rough. What they begin, they’ll see them through to the end.

Think different.
For these people, they don’t have to think outside of the box: there isn’t a box to think outside of. They don’t let other people’s ideas stop them from imagining the world as they want to see it and make it.

Healthy, Strong Bodies
Exercise is part of the solution. They take the time out of their lives to make sure that their bodies match the way that they feel—good.

Self-Satisfaction
They know how to make themselves happy, which is why they get good results in life. Happy people also aren’t overly concerned with making other people happy. They’re the ones who other people go out of their way to please.

The Right Tribe
People who succeed surround themselves with friends and allies who they love and trust. This is their tribe. They keep out the noise because they don’t the negative people get close. They know who their tribe is, and know how to use them.

No Set Backs
When bad things happen they don’t think of them as the end of the world. They see problems as challenges that they can learn and grow from. This is why nothing seems to hold them back.

There Are Limitations
They know what the limits are. They don’t think there is a way to do everything, so they focus on the things that they can do 100%.

Natural Givers
They’re truly generous people. When they give, they don’t want anything in return. What’s good about this is that it pays them back, double.

Moving On
Happy people let the past go. It isn’t something that will drag them down, they move ahead instead of getting caught up in all the snags that try to catch them up along the way.

Higher Awareness
Spirituality for them doesn’t have to mean religion or meditation. Successful, happy people think and live in the world as parts of systems that only they can perceive. They can perceive the next level and they reach for it

There are a lot of different countries in the world, and there are even more tipping customs. When you travel you need to know how to tip in the country that you’re in, otherwise you’ll leave  servers angry everywhere you go. Here are just a few guidelines to tipping around the world.
Brazil
There will always be a standard 10% service charge added to your bill, and you won’t necessarily have to tip. If you do feel like being generous, an extra 5-10% will really make your server very happy. Just remember to do this as subtly as possible—Brazilians don’t make a big show of this.
Israel
Tipping is a fairly straight forward 10-13%. Your service may not be stellar, but those are the rules. Restaurants in some touristy parts of Tel Aviv may add a gratuity as high as 18%, so keep an eye out
to avoid double tipping.
Dubai
In Dubai it’s mandatory for restaurants to charge 10% gratuity on all restaurant and bar bills. You can add a couple of dirhams to this if you feel like it. Waiters are not paid very much in Dubai, so it is always very appreciated.
Germany
German bars and restaurants will include the gratuity as part of what you owe, but that’s not all you have to pay. It is customary to round the bill up after that, usually to the euro. This can be anywhere from 5-10%. When it’s time to settle up, you won’t get a bill: your waiter tells you the total and then you tell them how much you want to pay, including your “tip,” and hand over the money.
Czech Republic
While locals in the Czech Republic don’t leave tips, that doesn’t mean you’re off the hook. Foreign tourists are definitely expected to leave some kind of tip for service—as long as you’re in a high tourist traffic area, like Prague for instance. The standard tip is 10%. Just remember not to misinterpret your server’s curtness for rudeness.
India
If you liked the service, go ahead and tip your server 5-10%. You have to adjust that amount though, based on how big the meal you’re eating is. If the bill is for a small meal, and totals less than 300 rupees, tip the full 10%. If the bill is higher, tip towards the 5%.
Thailand
Thailand doesn’t have a very strict tipping custom, but it’s always nice to leave something for your servers. In Thailand a tip will be appreciated, but never asked for. Leaving the loose change left over after you’ve paid your bill is sufficient, or you can leave a dollar for each diner at the table.
No Tip
Even if you’ve had really extraordinary service, if the country you’re visiting doesn’t customarily practice tipping your servers there will not expect a tip. That doesn’t mean you can’t try to give them one, but just keep in mind that your offer may be more disturbing to the person you want to thank than gracious. Countries where tipping is not usually practiced include Italy, Japan, Vietnam, New Zealand, Australia, Belgium, France, Norway, Singapore, Malaysia, China and Hong Kong

Tonight my son Macks woke up shortly after I put him down to bed. I walked into his room as he sat up and looked at me through the side of his crib with tears in his eyes and I quietly picked him up. We walked over to the rocking chair in his room and I held him in my arms as he calmed down, closed his eyes, and slowly fell back to sleep. I sat there and watched him as he slept — the way that his eyelashes looked so long and curled, especially with his eyes closed. The way that his tiny little fingers reached for mine because he loves to grasp it as he sleeps. I couldn’t keep my eyes off of his face, closely studying it so that I could remember it forever.
My mindset has changed with this last baby. It’s a bit bittersweet. As I watch him grow, all of the firsts that he experiences in his life are lasts in mine. The first time he says “mama,” the first tooth, the first steps, will all be the last time that I’ll watch as a mother. But along with all of these moments, there is so much more that I’m aware of now that I know he’s our last. And it’s changed the way that I am as a mother. Here’s how:

1. You savor those late-night feedings rather than dread them.

The lack of sleep that comes from a baby can take some getting used to. I remember with my oldest, I was always afraid to fall asleep for the night because I’d just be woken up in a couple of minutes to do another feeding. I’d cry at times because I was just so tired and my body couldn’t catch up to the lack of sleep. With my youngest, I’ve come to love the late-night feedings. At nine months, he’s still not sleeping through the night and I’m okay with that. Late at night as I’m nursing him is the only time that we have throughout the day that it’s just the two of us. It’s a chance for us to cuddle and focus on one another while everyone else sleeps peacefully.

2. It takes just a little bit longer to put away the old clothes.

I still have Macks’ newborn clothes hanging in his closet because I’m just not ready to put them away for good. With both of my girls, I wanted to make room for new, cute clothes, so it was a breeze for me to pack them up and put them away, but I just can’t with this last one. Knowing that it’s the last time that I’ll see a tiny little onesie hanging in a closet in our house, brings tears to my eyes. Thankfully he has a big closet, so I can leave the clothes hanging just a little bit longer.

3. I’m not impatiently waiting for the next milestone.

I remember with my oldest that I couldn’t wait for her to say her first word or start to crawl, and while I get excited when I see my son reach a milestone for the first time, I’m also realizing that this is the last time that will happen. This time around I’m desperately trying to figure out how to slow down time so that I can be in this moment just a little bit longer.

4. The cuddles last just a little bit longer. 

I’ll never know when it will be the last time that I’ll rock my little one to sleep, so even after he’s asleep in my arms, I rock for just a little bit longer, gripping onto the time that we have together. With my oldest, I’d rock her to sleep and then quickly put her into her crib before heading onto something else. Oh how I wish I knew how special that time was back then.

5. You know you can’t spoil them enough. And if you do, you’re okay with it. 

I read every single baby book to prepare for my first child. I wanted to have her on a schedule right away, just like the books told me. I was trying so hard to parent the way that others told me to that I was completely ignoring what I needed and what my daughter needed. I was so afraid that if she slept anywhere other than her crib, I’d spoil her forever. Now I know that there’s no such thing.

6. You are so much more aware of time.

Oh how fast it goes. Too quickly if you ask me. It seems that after each child, time seems to pass by more quickly than the last. And now, knowing that he’s my last one, it seems like time is going at lightning speed. It’s taught me to slow down and take in each moment.

7. You know that “stuff” can wait. 

But he can’t. And the time that we get together can’t either. It’s amazing how much knowing that this is your last child puts everything in perspective. You hold onto everything just a little bit more and realize that all of that “stuff” on your to-do list is just that: stuff. With my first, I was too busy trying to be the perfect mom, and wife, and sister, and teacher, that it got to be completely overwhelming. So now, rather than moving from task to task, I’ll sit down on the floor with him for just a little bit longer and let the dishes wait

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 Government spokesman Jawahar Yadav: Priority to "save innocent lives"

Indian police have arrested a controversial guru a day after pitched battles with his supporters left at least six people dead.

The self-styled guru, known as Rampal, is wanted in connection with a 2006 murder case and for contempt of court.
His supporters threw stones and opened fire when police tried to raid his ashram in the northern state of Haryana.
The bodies of four women and a child were subsequently found at the site.
A fifth woman, aged 20, died at a local hospital after leaving the ashram.
The causes of their deaths have not been revealed. Police say the bodies did not "bear any injuries".
The guru was led out of the complex in an ambulance late on Wednesday, as dozens of local villagers cheered the police.
He has been taken to the state capital, Chandigarh, a senior police official told the BBC. He is likely to appear in court on Thursday.

Police are present in force but there has been no violence on Wednesday

Police used water cannon to try and disperse the guru's supporters on Tuesday

Hundreds of people were injured in the clashes

A week-long stand-off at the Satlok Ashram - some 170km (105 miles) north-east of Delhi - escalated on Tuesday as police moved in to arrest Rampal.
Police fired tear gas and water cannon, and used bulldozers to try to break into the sprawling complex, while ashram members threw stones and other missiles and opened fire.
Hundreds of people were hurt in the operation.

Police accuse the guru's armed devotees of holding people hostage, and using women and children as human shields.
At least 270 people have been arrested in connection with Tuesday's clashes and charged with rioting, illegal detention, attempt to murder and waging war against the state.
The authorities also cut off power and water supplies to the site.
Mani Ram, a devotee who managed to escape, told the Indian Express newspaper that ashram authorities had prevented them from leaving for two days, insisting police would kill them if they went outside.

Who is Rampal?

Rampal is accused of involvement in a murder case dating from 2006 in which a man died in a clash at another of his ashrams.
He denied the allegations and was released on bail. The authorities ordered his arrest on contempt charges after he repeatedly failed to appear in court.
The Punjab and Haryana High Court had set a final deadline for Rampal to appear in court on Monday in the contempt case.
Rampal ignored the summons and his lawyers said he was too ill to make the 250km (155-mile) journey to the court in Chandigarh, which serves as the capital of both states.
The judges criticised the government, saying they "lacked the will" to arrest the guru and said he must be in court by Friday.
Many people visit the guru, believing he can cure illnesses

If you ever wondered why men are better at reading maps than women, then you might just have found the answer and the reason would probably shock you. LOL.

According to research at the University of Utah, men are wired to want to spread their genes far afield, either to reduce the chance of inbreeding or to increase opportunities to mate.
In the study, researchers looked at two tribes in Namibia where men regularly roam more than 120 miles every year, mating with women in the regions they cover.
Layne Vashro had the following to say about the study:

“Navigation ability facilitates traveling longer distances and exploring new environments and the farther you travel, the more likely you are to encounter new mating opportunities.
“It looks like men who travel more in the past year also have children from more women – what you would expect if mating was the payoff for travel.”
So if you ever wondered why navigational and directional skills are far more developed in men than in women, sex is the reason.

The worst thing about being single is when you try to talk to women and only get rejected. Every man knows it’s hard to strike out all the time. After a while these blows to your confidence can lead to you setting yourself up for failure. Here are five things that men can do to make sure they don’t look so desperate whilst dating:

1. Don’t talk about it. Your life stinks right now, it’s true. But if that is the only thing you talk about no one is going to want to spend any time with you. Sad sacks with sob stories about being single and unlucky in love are not what women are looking for. If your primary approach to women is to reveal how horrible you feel about your love life, there is no way she is going to find you attractive. You’ll be pitied, sure, and maybe even get a hug, but no one is going to fall in love with you that way.

2. Flirting does not equal a relationship. You might think that talking to a woman for the first time means you need to be as open and sharing as if you were her long-term boyfriend. This is the 100% wrong thing to do. You are most likely going to drive her away with telling her more than she needs or wants to know about you. Flirting is a game, not a job interview. It should make her want to know you more, not less.

3. Don’t lie. You are who you are, and ultimately you aren’t going to fool her by telling her you’re someone else. Don’t feel like you need to lie to impress her. If she likes something you’re not a fan of, don’t tell her it’s your favorite too. Instead of lying, steer the conversation towards something you do like.

4. You don’t need a girlfriend right now. Half of the desperation you are feeling is made up of feeling like you are not meeting your expectations. That may be true, but the problem may be your expectations themselves. Try to realign your goals with women so that you’re not so focused on what you don’t have, but on the woman who is in front of you right now. The rest will come when you stop stressing about what will happen next.

5. Practice! Just like any performer, you need to work on your skills. You may think it’s funny, but try talking in front of a mirror. You’ll be surprised how your best lines and what you look like when you say looks to women when you have to look at yourself in the mirror. You can even try to talk to women with the sole intention of having it count as practice. Who knows, it may turn into something more real.

If you are feeling like you could use some guidance with how to effectively approach women, you should definitely check out ‘The Tao of Badass‘. This ebook and international bestseller is considered the “bible” of how to attract women and has helped thousands of previously shy men find love.

I am going to show you a rock solid technique you can use right away and get instant results. This technique is so effective that your ex will start missing you and will desperately desire you again right away! Ready to get started?

Do you know that humans normally have a tendency to take things for granted? We don’t really value the air we breathe but we only understand how important it is when we run out of it. So you see similarly your ex doesn’t really value you at the moment because by chasing them around you have already shown them that you need them. But you see, the pain of loss is far greater than the pleasure of gain. Humans would do anything to save what they already have instead of gaining something new. I don’t why it is this way but this is the way human psychology functions. 

Therefore, what you are going to do now is create a sense of loss in your ex’s mind where he/she would feel constant emptiness & a sense of anxiety. Pretty much like what you are going through right now. Okay here is what I want you to do. I want you to get in touch with your ex via SMS or E-mail. Why SMS or E-mail? Well, for the simple reason that your ex will always attend to your SMS or E-mail even when they have been trying to avoid you.

This is the message you must write in the text:

“I wanted to tell you that you were right about the breakup…I guess we do need space. Amazingly something wonderful happened recently…I guess when things happen they happen for a reason…You know what?”

Now this might sound incomplete with the final “You know what?” line, but that is the big trick here, leaving it incomplete will raise your ex’s level of curiosity and he/she will get highly eager to know the rest of the message. Don’t be too surprised if your ex calls you right away. This is where you need to be very careful. You should not return or attend their call right away, it is very important that you must follow through with my advice in my manual “Pull your ex back”.

Now let me tell you why this would work. By sending this message, you are doing everything that would persuade them to desire you once again. You are indirectly telling them “You don’t need them anymore”, this would seriously bother them as you have just told them that they don’t have you anymore, which would create massive feeling of loss within them. This will make them want you more than ever before.

You are telling them that you have already moved on and they will think how could you be over it so fast all of a sudden?

You are telling them that the breakup didn’t bother you that much. The fact that it didn’t bother you that much will bother them. They will find the fact that you got over them so fast hard to swallow.

By telling them that something wonderful recently happened in your life they would fear that maybe you already found someone else. This will trigger their fear of loss to unbearable levels, and at the same time the fear that you have found someone else will emotionally push them to know more and more.

The next step is very important, read carefully.

Now you will see magic unfold right in front of your eyes. I want you to listen very closely here. The guy/girl who was trying to avoid you all this time will literally be begging to have your attention after this point on. After you have sent the above mentioned message, your ex will probably call you or send you a message to know the rest. In this case tell them that you have something important to say and would like to get on the phone, to which your ex cannot really refuse since he/she is already jumping up and down with curiosity to know the rest of the message.

Once you are on the phone with them, make small conversation and then tell them that you have something really important you would like them to know, and then hesitate, say:

“Ummm! Well! I don’t know how to say this…But…I guess I shouldn’t tell you…But…” And then go quiet.

At this your ex would probably force you, but hesitate a bit more and then say:

“Sorry…I don’t think I should tell you…I gotta go!

And then hang up! That’s it, no more and no less! Don’t drag it, keep it short and hang up. Now do you know what you have done? Well, surprise surprise! Before your ex was just curious but now he/she would be burning with a compelling desire to know what you really wanted to tell them. They would find it hard to relax and get over the fact that you had something to say but never said it. And why would this work? Well, humans have a tendency to desire what they can’t have, and that desire turns into a burning obsession with time.

There is another great saying which goes: “Keep them hungry and they will keep coming back”.

Therefore now you have made your ex extremely hungry and he/she will keep coming back for more until you satisfy their hunger.

I am sure you’re really excited by now, but wait, let me strongly warn you here. This trick will work surprisingly well for you, BUT, doing this does not mean things will be smooth from this point on.

11 Marriage Problems And How To Resolve Them

Marriage Problems

If someone ever comes to you and says “I’ve never had an argument with my husband” or “we never fight”, they are lying to you! Every marriage has its fair share of issues, whether you want to call them conflicts, confusions or problems. What is more important is to get yourself out of these conflicting areas and ensure that they are kept at the bay. Have a quick look at some of the common problems that plague every marriage on the planet.
1. Dishonesty

If there was one thing that came above anything else while ruining a marriage, this would be it – dishonesty. Many a times, you let out ‘little lies’ and then call them ‘white lies’ for your own convenience. If you are confident of yourself and not faking anything in your marriage, there should be no reason for even the smallest of lies. Talk about things that are not too appropriate to be said directly, but do not lie! Be honest about yourself, your thoughts, ideas, expectations, and your love. Dishonesty may save you from a small argument today, but can come back and haunt you years later. You will break his trust and his heart, if he ever finds out that you have been dishonest. There is nothing more painful than lack of trust in a marriage.
2. Unrealistic expectations

Whenever you find yourself struggling to come in terms with ‘unfair’ situations in your marriage, sit back, take a deep breath and think to yourself, “What do I really expect? Is this what I deserve?” Most women often expect too much, and in some cases, too less. It is very tough to keep a balance between more and less, but a moment of thought can usually help you to come to terms with your expectations. Always remember, you should expect no less or no more than what you deserve.
3. Lack of sexual compatibility

Sexual relations with your partner play a very important role in your marriage. Lack of sex can lead to depression, arguments, loss of excitement and, in worst cases, even infidelity. Find time from your busy routine for each other’s physical needs. Be adventurous, try new things inside the bedroom, and spice things up!
4. Lack of respect

It is very important that you treat your partner with respect. There is no single thing that you can say or do to show respect. It just means backing him up no matter what. It can be something as small as taking his side in an argument on the dinner table with friends, or agreeing with his views while having a challenging conversation with the family. You must expect the same. Loss of respect is a significant blow to the balance of a relationship. Give respect, get respect.
5. Practice what you preach

It’s one thing putting your thoughts, ideas and expectations forward; it’s another thing to step up and practice what you preach. If you have certain demands or expectations from your partner, be ready to put them to practice in your own life. It can be as simple as being aware of your own punctuality levels before asking him to ‘always be on time’. You will gain respect from your partner if you follow what you say.
6. Taking each other for granted

It is one of the easiest traps that many couples fall into. Think of the moment when you were dating your partner and your only dream in life was to marry him and be with him forever. Well, guess what, your dream has come true! Appreciate the fact that what you only dreamt of earlier is what you have now. Think of every moment spent with him as a gift and cherish every romantic look that he gives you. Never take your partner and his love for granted.

We as men, love women, it’s in our blood. There are a lot of things that we find appealing in women but, it’s only natural that there are some things about women that we find even more attractive. Because men are simple creatures, certain things appeal to all of us, similar to how certain things about us men, appeal to you.

For example, no women on this earth will say that chivalry isn’t attractive. So, if you want to have that extra edge in front of other ladies, pay close attention to this article. These are simple things and it’s really easy to apply them in your everyday life. By knowing what a man finds attractive in a woman it will become easy for you to attract any man you like. Just make sure you don’t let the new attention go into your head.

You see, men are very visual and simple creatures, for us, attraction and infatuation happens very quickly, we don’t need to know a lot about you in order to become attracted. Basically, it’s all down to your first impression.  It’s also true that in time, this changes and our appreciation for you will be at a much deeper level but for starters here are the things that catch our eyes:

1.       A cheerful woman

Nothing turns a man off more than a depressed and mean attitude. If you want to get that extra attention make sure you look cheerful because a flirty giggle and a cheerful attitude can quickly melt any man’s heart.

I agree that it’s not always easy to have such an attitude but if you can think about the happier side of life, all the time, this will happen naturally. It’s the same for you isn’t it? Would you date a guy that hates his life and is genuinely miserable? Probably not, so think about this next time you go out.

2.       A well dressed, good looking woman

Yes, we men are attracted by looks, you knew it, I said it and it’s the truth. But do not worry because this doesn’t mean you have to undergo plastic surgery…

Dressing well and looking good are things that you can immediately change. I’m not going to give any lessons on fashion as I’m probably not the right person to do so however, caring about what you put on and the way you apply some make-up can be detrimental when it comes to attracting men.

Just focus on dressing well and feeling good about yourself. If you feel good about how you look then the people around you will feel the same way. You don’t have to wear flashy color clothes or anything like that, just be confident, have well fitted clothes and use a little bit of perfume and you’ll be attracting some males in no time.

3.       A flirty woman

There’s nothing like a woman that can flirt back. We know that in order to attract a woman we have to flirt. Sadly, often times they don’t flirt back but…when they do…it’s absolutely amazing. Flirting back puts you in a very strong WOMANLY position, not only are getting in control but also you are acting like a woman. A womanly woman is absolutely infatuating for any man on this planet.

What do you need to do? Simple things like curling your lips or biting them slightly, raising your eyebrows when you make a smart remark, jiggling at our jokes, being genuinely interested in what we say – these sort of things. If you can’t yet master this subtle art, try looking at yourself in the mirror and exercise there. It may seem awkward at first but it will help you get the hand of things fairly quickly.

4.       Show us some skin

Now this isn’t a guide on how to be slutty however, that little bit of extra skin turns our heads in an instant. Too much skin is a cry for attention and men know it but if you play it subtle – It will work a lot better.

A shirt or a tee that ends just right around where your jeans start or a perfectly fitting top with a wider neck that shows a bit but yet needs a bit of craning to get a peep is just the perfect combination. We love those nearly-there peeks and it drives us crazy.

5.       A seductive voice

Again, this isn’t about changing your voice but using it correctly. There are little things in life that make the hair on a man’s back raise with excitement and a woman’s voice is one of them. Mastering the art of the seductive voice takes time so don’t focus on it too much.

Men are turned off by high pitched glass shattering squeals that most women use when they’re surprised or ecstatic with joy. A low and soft voice is obviously more attractive. Lucky for you, it’s actually not that hard to speak in a low, softer tone without seeming like you’re trying too hard. Exercise your new found talent on the phone but don’t blame me if the guy on the other line starts to get flirty.

6.       A Damsel In Distress

Maybe the term damsel in distress is too much for this but you get the idea, a woman in need. This may actually be a man’s dream, to help out a woman in need…as it gives them the perfect opportunity to be A MAN in front of you.

Men love to feel wanted and then appreciated by women. You might think that men hate doing errands and stuff like that but we hate it only when we’re in a long term relationship. At the beginning, we are at your disposal so use us in any way you want. So, if you know a single guy, go up to him with a smile on your face and ask him to help you with something, chances are he’ll jump to your help immediately.

We love women that ask for our help, it just makes us feel manlier and it gives us the opportunity to have a conversation with you. And when you thank us with a flirty smile, there’s a good chance we’ll do anything to get your number

 7.       A woman who acknowledges a man’s stare

This is the first step in seduction and probably the most important. You need to have the ability to acknowledge our stares. Sure, some guys have a lot of guts and approach you instantly but most guys don’t have this type of attitude and you need to give them at least the slightest reason to react.

Many guys will try to get your attention by giving a manly stare. React to this by looking back at them. You don’t even have to smile (sure if you do, you give them even more reasons to approach you) but even just acknowledging their look is enough. You don’t need to do this with every guy that looks at you, but if he seems decent enough, do it.

Also, you don’t need to marry him or have his babies but this will give you the chance meet a guy, you can decide later if he’s your type or not …if no guy comes to you in any given night, how will you ever find a guy this way? This simple acknowledgement of a stare is the most important thing you can do if you want to get a guy to notice you and come in for the approach.

In conclusion, now that you have this knowledge make sure you use it wisely. There are a lot of women out there that just scream for attention, don’t be that woman because we men, hate her. Attract us but show us that you’re different when we approach you, this is how long term relationships are built.